In his book, Oneness with All Life, Eckhart Tolle reminds us,

“If in the midst of negativity you are able to realize- At this moment I am creating suffering for myself –  it will be enough to raise you above the limitations of conditioned egoic states and reactions.  It will open up infinite possibilities which come to you when there is awareness – other vastly more intelligent ways of dealing with any situation. You will be free to let go of your unhappiness the moment you recognize it as unintelligent.”